It is in the heart where the best parenting comes from. There is no time to be lazy in parenting and in this task that you have been given, you need to be keen and observant. If parenting is a heart thing, why are there still books and guides to parenting that most parents refer to. Many parents do not trust themselves. Their parents raised them without these guides and books but with the help of the older members of their families like grandparents, uncles, and aunts.
Although parents have sought counsel in books and guides, it is a sad reality that the children of today are not turning out as we hope they would. There are some who really don’t care but there are others also who do not want to disappoint their children and give them whatever they want. Their children have no restraints. In these cases, children are not taught by their parents what they can or cannot do. You can encourage a child to be what he or she wants to be in the future, but these children also need to know that there is proper behavior when in public which they should always observe.
Your children will learn from whatever you teach them if you are serious enough to teach them and lead them from the heart. With the proper teaching, the child’s conscience will be developed to discern between right and wrong. If parents are consistent with their parenting, then the child’s conscience will develop naturally. If a parent is not involved and just manages to be there but does not seem to care, then the child gets this idea that their parents don’t care whether they are at home or not. This way, children are not guided into the correct direction. The disadvantage for the parents is that they don’t set a limit for their children. Children will do what they want without their conscience being bothered about wrongdoing.
This is how you develop ruthless ambition in children. Although these children can aspire for a future goal, achieving these goals at whatever cost is not good. The child will not know if she is doing something wrong because that is how she has always behaved and cannot think of any other way of accomplishing it.
Great attention should be given by the parents to their children. If parenting your child is difficult for you, then you should look for help form an outside source. There are a lot of parenting help now being offered by companies and organizations and some even have websites for this purpose. If you want to put good conscience in your children, then you should take parenting seriously.